Teachers need to work with parents to develop agreed ways of dealing with unacceptable behaviour. It is important that unacceptable behaviour is curbed, and that clear boundaries are set.
On no account will corporal punishment, (smacking and slapping), be used, nor will the use of Ďnaughty chairsí or corners, or withdrawal of meals be applied. Our staff will not shout at the children or threaten them.
The best ways of dealing with unacceptable behaviour are to remove the child from the scene of activity, (so called Ďtime outí), or to distract the child's attention by moving them to a different activity. The teacher should explain why the behaviour is unacceptable and try to find out the reason for it. It is important that the child realises that it is the negative behaviour that we disapprove of, not the child him/herself.
Prevention is better than cure: if we as adults represent good role models for the children, and provide stimulating activities to prevent them from becoming bored, then many forms of difficult behaviour will never arise.
If problems arise of a serious nature concerning the behaviour of a particular child, then advice will be sought from a health visitor in co-operation with the parents.
A Child's View Of Discipline
Donít spoil me. I know quite well that I ought not to have all I ask for. Iím only testing you.
Donít be afraid to be firm with me. I prefer it and it makes me feel more secure.
Don't let me form bad habits. I have to rely on you to detect them in the early stages.
Donít make me feel smaller than I am. It only makes me behave stupidly Ďbigí.
Donít correct me in front of others if you can help it. Iíll take much more notice if you talk to me quietly in private.
Donít make me feel that my mistakes are sins. It upsets my sense of values.
Donít protect me from consequences. I need to learn the hard way sometimes.
Donít be too upset when I say ďI hate youĒ. It isnít you I hate but your power to thwart me.
Donít take too much notice of my small ailments. Sometimes they get me the attention I need.
Donít nag me. If you do, I shall have to protect myself by appearing deaf.
Donít make rash promises. Remember that I feel badly let down when promises are broken.
Donít forget that I canít explain myself as well as I would like. Thatís why Iím not always very accurate.
Donít tax my honesty too much. Iím easily frightened into telling lies.
Donít be inconsistent. That completely confuses me and makes me lose faith in you.
Donít put me off when I ask questions. If you do, youíll find that I stop asking and seek my answers elsewhere.
Donít tell me that my fears are silly. Theyíre terribly real and you can do much to reassure me if you try to understand.
Donít ever suggest that you're perfect or infallible. It gives me a great shock when I discover that youíre neither.
Donít ever think that itís beneath your dignity to apologise to me. An honest apology makes me feel surprisingly warm toward you.
Donít forget how quickly Iím growing up. It must be very difficult for you to keep pace with me, but please try.
Donít forget I love experimenting. I couldnít get on without it so please put up wit it.
Donít forget that I canít thrive without lots of love and understanding, but I donít need to tell you that, do I?